While the bride and groom are the centers of attention on the wedding day, both sets of parents are also in the spotlight at this special event.
Mom and dad will probably want to help with the planning–and possibly–the paying portion of your special day. And, not to mention the important roles they’ll play during the ceremony and reception. But there are a few things they shouldn’t do when it comes to the wedding, so be sure to show them these EIGHT “don’ts” before you even send out the save the dates:
1. Constantly Bringing Up Money issues and the BUDGET.
Parents should stop bringing up who’s paying for what.
“A Happy couple’s big-day plans can go south quickly by a reminder of who is paying for the food, or the facility, or the linens,” he says. “Trust me, they will always be thinking about this and they will always be worried about it. Be savvy about this, why not schedule a little time with the couple a few times throughout the planning period to go over financvial issdues.”
2. Trying to Dominate conversations about the Guest Lists.
Parents should vow to keep the focus of the wedding solely on the couple without exception, who matters to them and who ‘s close to them.
“Inviting old friends that have never met the wedded-to-be duo is a huge no-no. Instead, allow the couple to choose their own guest list,” she says. “After all, surrounding them with life-long loved-ones in celebration is what it’s all about!”
3. Dress & Attire Discussions
Couples will have their own ideas nowadays on what to wear. There should be a compromise reached before the wedding on balance between traditional attire for their tradional functions and the latest trend what they want o wear at the reception.
4. Make It All About Them
Parents often get swept away in the wedding planning and forget it’s about the bride and groom. “Be happy for your son or daughter and don’t try to steal the show,” it’s their day.
5. Not Regarding the other Family interests.
If your son or daughter are marrying someone from a different Community or religion than you, please respect their choice and treat the other family’s traditions with respect
. Your son or daughter will be living with their partner for the rest of their lives and they love them and you do not want to leave a sour taste in their mouth. Please be kind and remember it is two families joining each other not just two people. You wouldn’t want to create some wedges between both the families.”
6. Arguments
Nowadays weddings are about Inter Faith Love and Blended families and divorced parents these kind of people often still hold some animosity toward each other and have some lingering stress from the wedding prep and planning,
“Add a few drinks in the wedding reception and those feelings of being slighted and anger toward each other start bubbling up to the surface,”
Arguments and disagreements can be dealt with after the wedding
7. Make an Embarrassing Speech and an embarrassing audio visual of your child’s past about things He/she does not want the other Family to know
Try to avoid the embarrassing stories of your child during any speeches–their future in-laws do not need to know everything,
8 Any animated discussions on religion/Political Views/Taboo topics especially in Inter- faith weddings to be avoided.